Interviews, Take 2: The Mysterious Nate

I have great friends.

My friend Nate came over to my house last night to hang out and have a drink with Claire and I. He didn't know I had a blog, much less one about sex. When asked if I could interview him for it, he said yes. I told him basically nothing else, but, good man that he is, he jumped right in.

It was a fireside chat not unlike this one.

Here's the (somewhat condensed, for your sake) transcript:

Tell me about the first time that you had sex.

I had just gotten back from a...I was the president of the National Honors Society at my school, so I had organized this weekend field trip to Seattle, and my girlfriend was in said group. So we went up [to Seattle], and the night we came back, I ended up hanging out at her house for a while. We had done other things, you know, start out slow. We were both first timers. You know, we had given each other oral sex before. So, we were, you know, hanging out, doing some stuff, and, uh...alright, I'm just gonna tell it how it is. I was kind of weirdly sneaky about this, because I felt like she didn't want to. So it was all hot and steamy, and I was like "Yo, I want you so bad. Can I just put my penis in you, not necessarily have sex with you, because I know you're not okay with that." So, that happened, then, you know, I took it where it needed to go. So, I lost my virginity there. But then, we were still hanging out that night, and it went on a bit later, once again.

How old were you?

I was sixteen.

And how long had you two been dating?

We had been together for probably...six months.

What do you think makes for a good sexual encounter with someone?

In few or many words?

Claire: I just did a twenty five minute interview.

Yeah, I mean, I have five questions, and my interview with Claire was 25 minutes. I wouldn't worry about talking too much.

I feel like it needs to - initially, like as soon as you start into the making out - it needs to feel really hot, and high-energy, and intense. And then it moves on from there, and clothes are taken off, sort of in a fury. Then, uh, it usually just starts out fairly intimate, and super, almost animalistic at times. Sort of just coming back to the instincts. Then as it progresses you can start getting a little creative with it, moving onto some different positions, different things.

Do you feel that there are any things that you expect to come from a sexual encounter that you don't always get?

Yup. It seems like....well, the only times I feel like I am not getting something that I wanted to get is if I'm trying to have sex in a previously not-excellent mood. Not necessarily angry sex, but you know, your mind isn't clear. You're thinking about shit. And then usually by the end of it, it's like, you kinda do it to relax yourself, relieve yourself. Similarly, it can be a bad situation if you're trying to sleep with someone to get out of loneliness, but it doesn't feel right.

Are there things you don't expect from someone in a physical encounter, but when they do come up, you're always pleasantly surprised?

Um...yes. Lately, I've been getting kind of into light biting. Not like, on my junk, cause, I'm not into that. But uh, I don't expect that in any capacity. And I, previous to two weeks ago, would never have even considered that, because I'm way too gentle with people most of the time. I don't know, it's kind of hot. I'm into that, on a light level. If it's like, creepy goth level where they want you to bleed, that's not my thing. Um...yeah. I don't know.

Well, that's a perfectly legitimate answer.

Well, also, though - and this is a bit more explicit - chicks that play with your asshole during sex. Kinda hot sometimes. Sometimes it's really, really not.

Has it ever specifically been not hot?

Yes.

*This is when Claire, Nate and I have an extended conversation about anal play. This will, I promise you, be the subject of a talk in a future post.*

If you don't get it, don't think too hard about it.

What about yourself would you want your partner - in general, but also in bed - to notice about you?

I feel like...alright, I've only had one girl that I've slept with, for like two years straight, which was my last real girlfriend. And I feel like in that kind of situation, once I can get into the stride of things, the thing Im' kind of proud of is kinda like...I feel like i've got some sweet moves.

Claire: You've gotta get more specific.

Just like, in the moment, crazy, good shit that i do. It's like, we're doing it missionary, let's turn over here, put your leg up over me like this, and do that all within one stroke.

So, flexibility and spontaneity?

Yeah. Or like, picking her up and fucking her up against the wall. That's kinda hot.

Claire: That's way hot. Spread the word, guys.

Tell me about your masturbation and porn habits.

To be completely honest, I've sort of had a recent lack of porn and masturbation, which was weird to me. Until a couple weeks ago, I hadn't had sex with a girl in a year. So that was new to me, given the last three years. With my last girlfriend it was, you know, at least once a day. Recently, though, I've started masturbating regularly again. Usually like...a little less than every other night. And porn habits: I usually watch porn with it, not always. Sometimes I just pull up the old memory cinema. When I watch porn - I'm sure this is part of the question you want involved in there - it's usually anal sex or deepthroat blowjobs. That's what gets me off.

Is there anyone that you find attractive against your better judgment?

Cate Blanchett. Straight up. Fucking gorgeous.

Claire: That's not against your better judgment, that's-

Well, I don't hear a lot of people saying she's smokin' hot, and I think she's smokin' hot. Stone cold fox.

And Nate. Will you have sex with me right now?

I would.

Yeah?

Yeah.

You wanna go?

Yeah.

Claire: Guys, no!

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